If you've heard the budget ones are crap before, then why didnt you specify a good gasket??
PJME sell genuine yamaha gaskets for only £12...see the website
the first thing to do is order a decent gasket either an athena rubber coated one or a genuine yamaha one.
next you'll have to drain the coolant and take off the head, if you find a painted steel gasket that may well be your only problem
you can make sure the gasket sealing surface is clean and no bits stuck on there, if you want you can place it on a pane of glass...does it 'rock' on high points...hope not!...when it's on the glass can you slide a thin feeler gauge under it at any point?...hope not
dont worry too much about the torque wrench, you'll find thet one of the nuts is nigh imposiible to get a socket on anyhow and has to be nipped up with a spanner
I suggest you get a manual, there is a tightening sequence to follow when nipping up the head nuts...dont murder them just nip them up but really the feel of 'that'll be enough' comes with experience
can you borrow a torque wrench and do the ones that are accessible...then do the others with a spanner?
re-fill with coolant when its done of course